What is domestic abuse?
Domestic abuse mainly takes place in intimate relationships. It can be experienced from a current or former partner. It includes a number of different types of behaviour and power and control tactics. It is not just about physical violence. It can include:
- Shouting, Mocking, Accusing, Name Calling, Verbally threatening you, family and pets
- Threatening suicide, lying to family & friends about you,
- Putting you down, ignoring you, blaming you, isolating you from friends and family
- Forcing you to perform sexual acts
- Punching, slapping, hitting, biting, kicking, hair pulling, pushing, shoving, burning, strangling
All these are behaviours of an abusive partner. All of these are acts of domestic abuse.
Who does it happen to?
Domestic abuse can happen to anyone!
- It doesnt matter whether you are a man or a woman.
- It doesnt matter if you are straight or gay.
- It doesnt matter how much you earn.
- It doesnt matter if you have children.
- It doesnt matter what your religion is.
- It doesnt matter what your race is.
What can I do?
If you are in an abusive relationship:
- Remember you are not to blame
- Remember it is not acceptable
- Remember you are not alone
How can I leave?
You can always prepare to leave your partner even if you are not ready at this moment in time. There may also be a need to leave in an emergency.
The tips below if followed can help you prepare to leave:
- Keep your mobile phone charged at all times.
- Have change to hand in case you need to use a public phone.
- Keep some emergency money to one side (this may be for a public transport, food or somewhere to stay overnight)
- Always have your house and/or car keys to hand.
- Make sure your documents like passports, birth certificates, benefit books etc. are in a safe place that you can get to easily. You may want to leave them with a trusted friend or relative.
- Dont forget to take any medicines you need with you.
- Have copies of any legal papers i.e. Injunctions
- Do your children know how to contact the emergency services? Do they know important telephone numbers like family members?
- Leave extra clothes and money at a friends or relatives house.
Who can help?
For emergency help or advice on domestic abuse and policing.
General switchboard (24 Hours): 0161 872 5050
In an emergency (24 Hours): 999
Specialised Unit (office hours): 0161 856 4551 or 4555
For information and advice about emergency accommodation or moving home because of domestic abuse.
One Point Housing Options and Advice
Emergencies only (out of hours): 0800 988 7061
Office hours: 0161 770 5113
Threshold Women's Services Helpline (24 hours): 0161 628 4991
National Helpline (24 hours): 0808 2000 247
National Centre for Domestic Violence Legal Advice Line can provide help with injunctions (24 hours): 0844 8044 999
Emergency Duty Team (Out of Hours): 0161 628 5933
Children & Families Division (Office Hours): 0161 770 3730
MALE (Mens Advice Line & Enquiries): 0808 801 0327
Broken Rainbow (LGBT Services): 0300 999 5428
RESPECT: 0808 802 4040
Victim Support & Witness Service: 0161 652 0405
Oldham Citizens Advice Bureau: 0845 120 3703
Oldham Law Centre: 0161 627 0925
The following provide information, advice and support on living with or trying to escape an abusive relationship.
Womens Aid England: http://www.womensaid.org.uk/
Legal advice for women: http://www.rightsofwomen.org.uk/