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Domestic Violence

Are you worried about yourself, a brother or a sister, a friend who you think may be affected be domestic violence in their family?

Call the MASH team 0161 770 7777 or the Police on 101

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What is Domestic Violence and Abuse?

Domestic Violence and abuse is when one grown-up hurts or bullies another grown-up who is or was their partner, or who is in the same family. Domestic abuse can happen between people who are boyfriend and girlfriend or who are married

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It can happen when people live together or in different houses. Usually (but not always) it is the man who hurts the woman. Although domestic abuse happens between grown-ups, children can be affected by the abuse that they see and hear. Children can also be hurt or bullied as part of domestic abuse. If this is happening in your family, remember that you are not alone.

Domestic abuse happens in many families and there are people that can help you and your family. Everyone has the right to be and feel safe. The Hideout is a website for children and young people in this situation to find help and support.

You might witness violence and abuse in the home in a number of different ways.

  • You may see or hear the abusive episode,
  • You may be used or even involved in the violence (e.g. you may be in the arms of the parent/carer during a physical attack and we know children are used as a defensive barrier); or
  • You may be upstairs in bed but able to hear the arguments.

It's not just the behaviour and physical violence of the abuser that will afffect you it will also be the emotional abuse of your parent/carer, in the form of name-calling, accusations and threats made by the abuser in your presence or you can hear.

Any behaviour directed towards you like being shouted at, told you are stupid or are not trying hard enough, or given mixed messages by being favoured one moment and put-down the next can really affect your own self-esteem and confidence.

Many parents/carers believe that their children were unaware of the domestic violence and abuse and are not affected by it. This isn't true, even young children are aware and affected by it, and the longer this goes on around you the more likely you are to have long term problems.

Get Help

There is lots and lots of help out there - Women's Aid have created The Hideout to help children and young people to understand domestic abuse, and how to take positive action if it's happening to you. You may also carry a burden of guilt for not being able to protect your parent/carer or other sibling within their family.

No one should have to put up with any kind of violence or abuse. Everyone has the right to Feel safe - so if you are worried then ask for help.

Unfortunately if domestic violence or abuse has happened once, then it is likely to happen again. Even if it has been happening for years it is never too late to seek help.

You can get help for yourself, your sister or brother, parents or carers and your friends. Visit Women's Aid for the Survivor's Handbook .

Domestic abuse affects the whole family. That’s why the experts at Safe Lives find out what works for both the victim and the children to stop domestic abuse. Then they do everything they can to make sure families everywhere benefit. And they won’t stop until everyone is safe. if you wan to talk to somebody about anything on this page try KOOTH. If the violence is anything to do with so called honour violence Karma Nirvana is a helpful website

There are a wide number of charities and organisations who can support victims and children affected by domestic violence and abuse, as well as those already included above visit:-  Refuge, Oldham Domestic Abuse, and click the image for more information on END THE FEAR .

Worried about yourself, a friend or member of your family - Call the MASH team 0161 770 7777